Take a moment to remember what it was like when you just met your spouse. Unless you grew up together, there was a time when the two of you were strangers. There was something intriguing about the other person, even if it wasn’t love at first sight. As you met and got to know each other, you were careful with your words trying hard not to offend or make a fool of yourself. In these first moments, even before the romantic relationship began you treated each other with kindness, dignity, and a mutual respect.
As the years pass and we get more comfortable with one another and in our marriage relationships there is a tendency to alienate all those things that we first applied to our relationship. Now that you intimately know all the faults of your spouse it is easier to treat each other with less kindness and respect than you did when you first met them. In fact, it is not uncommon to relate to your spouse in a way that is far less loving than when the two of you were strangers.
Here’s a thought… Why not revisit some of those initial feelings and ideas that you had about your fledgling relationship with your spouse. You may not be trying to impress them as you first thought you had to, but you can certainly strive for the initial kindness that you had for them. Often we hurt those that we are closest to by saying the most unkind and unloving things. You would never say those same things to a stranger your just met? Why not extend the same courtesy to your spouse? As we grow more accustomed to each other we should grow in mutual love and respect, not tear it down.
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